Special "Special" Days.
"If we change the name of this day, it will make our community more inclusive".
More inclusive? WTF? Are you serious? So by altering any, or all types of celebrations just because a minority might also not celebrate this, that will make our community come closer together? What does this actually teach our community and children?
Maybe Dad's should stand up and take offence to their "Dad Day" possibly being taken away from them and push for people to celebrate them because most of them do a damn good job at what they do.
And yes, I'm not stupid, I'm very aware and know that not ALL Dad's are great. But that's life. It's harsh, it sucks, it's sad for children in such a position, but it's just the way it goes. It should not determine all Dads to be perceived in such a way, and it does not mean the good ones shouldn't be celebrated.
If we don't celebrate the good ones, what will the bad ones have to look up too?
Maisey's Dad works away. Yes, he chooses too. But because of this sacrifice that he makes for his family, he has, and will miss out on things like Maisey's milestones, birthdays, and celebrations just like this Sunday being his first Father's Day. And that is SO worth celebrating! He is absolutely unreal, and both Maisey and I will ALWAYS want to celebrate him and all the amazing things he does for us, even if he's not here for every moment. This makes him so much more special and I want Maisey to be proud of him and be able to comfortably and openly celebrate him.
More inclusive? WTF? Are you serious? So by altering any, or all types of celebrations just because a minority might also not celebrate this, that will make our community come closer together? What does this actually teach our community and children?
Maybe Dad's should stand up and take offence to their "Dad Day" possibly being taken away from them and push for people to celebrate them because most of them do a damn good job at what they do.
And yes, I'm not stupid, I'm very aware and know that not ALL Dad's are great. But that's life. It's harsh, it sucks, it's sad for children in such a position, but it's just the way it goes. It should not determine all Dads to be perceived in such a way, and it does not mean the good ones shouldn't be celebrated.
If we don't celebrate the good ones, what will the bad ones have to look up too?
Maisey's Dad works away. Yes, he chooses too. But because of this sacrifice that he makes for his family, he has, and will miss out on things like Maisey's milestones, birthdays, and celebrations just like this Sunday being his first Father's Day. And that is SO worth celebrating! He is absolutely unreal, and both Maisey and I will ALWAYS want to celebrate him and all the amazing things he does for us, even if he's not here for every moment. This makes him so much more special and I want Maisey to be proud of him and be able to comfortably and openly celebrate him.
Our first Father's Day, celebrated 4 days early. - 2017
So what I'm trying to say is "Special Persons Day" is a load of BS. There, I said it.
*Waits to be attacked by all the sensitive people...
I understand that for some people, there might not be a Father, or even a Father figure. And that is so sad. I'm not dismissing or excusing this for one minute. I work with children whom are disadvantaged in many ways, but generally they have the common simarilarity of not having a Dad, not knowing their Dad or have even been abused by a Dad. This is heartbreaking and makes me want to teach these children that there ARE special men in the world who will treat them better than what they've been given. By showing ALL children the special men in the world- it will help our boys and girls to grow up and hopefully want to either be a good Man (not necessarily a 'Dad', just a good human), or to want to KNOW a good Man. Men are so important for so many different reasons and if we don't celebrate them then they will disappear.
But just because this may be the case for some people, it does not mean I am going to stop celebrating how lucky I personally am to have an awesome Dad, and same with Maisey and her new Dad too. The same theory will be taught in our house for Mother's Day, Christmas, Easter, Australia Day, Valentine's Day, and whatever other Days we might want to celebrate- whether others around us celebrate the particular holiday too, or not.
It doesn't mean that on a particular "Special" day I'm going to run around and rub it in the faces of the community to those not in the same position as myself. If you're offended, I feel sorry for you that you haven't been taught the skills to adapt and cope with things that may not be going your way. Days like Father's Day weren't created to intentionally hurt those that don't have a Father for whatever reason- whether it be from choice, age, culture. That's just ridiculous.
It hurts me to think that Maisey is growing up in a world that she may be shunned upon for wanting to celebrate a day that's special to her. Children need to learn that they won't always have the same situations as everyone else.
Some children might not celebrate Christmas for example, but this naturally builds a great opportunity for learning; expanding knowledge of different cultures and norms for people in their community, i.e. in their classroom. In turn, the children that do celebrate Christmas can learn about other cultures celebrated at the same time as their favourited holiday. Just because you educate a child on a different celebration, doesn't mean they'll go home and hypnotise their family, and change their religion to what they've been brought up to believe in their own home. It just means that they'll know about different celebrations. That's it- it's so simple.
How are we supposed to teach our children that sometimes in life they won't have the same as others? The real world is a cruel place and it isn't going to alter or change absolutely everything just to suit a minority. Children should be taught skills to learn to adapt and cope with differences in life once they leave the 'sensitive bubble' they call school.
Some children might not have a Mum or Dad. But they might have an Aunty, Brother, Gran or Footy Coach. It doesn't matter the relation- just as long as this "Special" person relates TO YOU. Celebrate them! Twist it up. Let's start making life easier for our children because it seems we're only making life more difficult for them with such a sensitive approach to "Special Days".
31.08.2017